Ways to Overcome Social Anxiety

November 27, 2009 – 12:38 pm

People who suffer from the concept of being critically evaluated constantly, and have excessive fear of social interactions are said to suffer from social anxiety, also known as social phobia. They have a high level of self-consciousness, and get perturbed in public places and forums. They live with the false and very unreasonable belief that everyone is watching, staring and judging them, which leads to constant panic attacks.Social anxiety affects everyday life and can become a quite a problematic issue if not treated on time.So, how to overcome social anxiety? There are a few tried and tested ways to overcome social anxiety, some of which have been listed below.

What is Social Anxiety?

Social anxiety is the fear of social situations and the interaction with other people that can automatically bring on feelings of self-consciousness, judgment, evaluation, and inferiority.Social anxiety disorder is not an actual disease, hence it has no cure. It is the third largest psychological problem in the United States today, affecting more than 15 million Americans each year. Being a psychological disorder, it has no set medical diagnostic test to determine its cause, nor does it have a ‘quick-fix’ treatment that would fit all. It is for the family, along with the psychologist and the health worker to work out a diagnosis and determine the course of treatment.

How to Overcome Social Anxiety:

One of the best ways to overcome social anxiety is to first seek help and then analyze what triggers it, but the individual, child or adult, who suffers from social anxiety must be treated with dignity throughout the course of treatment, for treatment goes beyond a few days of therapy.Medical treatment includes prescribing depression medications, beta blockers and anti-anxiety drugs. Following are a few tips to overcome social anxiety:

  • An understanding and awareness of the problem,

 

  • Practice, practice, practice to get that information (i.e., cognitive methods, strategies, and concepts) deep down into your brain - so that these cognitive  methods become habitual and automatic,
  • Foster positive thinking, especially in relation to accepting mistakes
  • Join a group of people who are dealing with this disorder
  • Spend more time with people who will encourage your participation

 

  • Participation in a social anxiety therapy group in which you can slowly and gradually work on problems that cause you anxiety in the real world.

 

  • A commitment to carry through with cognitive-behavioral therapy even when it is repetitious and seems difficult,

 

  • Mind calming by meditation, like yoga can be be very helpful in controlling the mind in social forums

 

  • Most importantly, stop being around people who are negative or foster negativity around you, always remember that you are the best and you are special

 

  • Sporting activities are a great way to build confidence, so get involved in some or the other sport activities

There are no fixed techniques to overcome social anxiety. Treating social anxiety in children is different from treating the disorder in adults, as it can be more grave. But they all work on the same belief that more than medications, it is the power of mind that will help overcome this disorder.Here’s where motivation and practice come in. The more you can practice these small techniques at home, the quicker anxiety can be reduced and social anxiety can be overcome.

 


Why Do I Love You ?

November 19, 2009 – 12:21 pm

Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true.Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all.

A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love."I love you". These three words can change somebody’s life. At least when they are meant from the heart. Love is one of the key ingredients, and an important value in life. They say that only the lucky ones get love in life.These "reasons why I love you" are what differentiates love, from common run of the mill attraction! Also, I believe, that in true love, you need to be able to pin point the reasons for love. So, if you find all these reasons in your feelings for the person, it is most likely, love! Also check out these signs of being in love and what is Love?, for help.

  • You annoy me at times. But, I still long for you when you are not around. You have the ability to get to me. Your stupid antics make me smile, laugh as well as get angry. But, even when I pretend to be angry or annoyed, I know that I just want you by my side. Your company is worth all the embarrassment in the world.

  • Because of the splendour of loving like that. Because of the totality of it. I was made whole. It was shocking, wonderful, even painful at times to be so everything, so all at once. That was how we came to be married, because one and one don’t make two in that condition — they make one.

  • Because when we first met we danced. That was such joy, to move together like that; to tell our story to each other through movement, through eyes meeting, and through open mouthed pleasure. So much clearer than words. So much in a glance, or in a quick touch and tumbled bodies, and the silent standing and knowing.

This section has two parts. The first one for women and the second for men.

Reasons for Why I Love Him
He protects me, physically and emotionally and I always feel safe around him. When he sees me walking through a crowd, I see his face light up. He looks at me with love and not lust. Yes, I know he longs to touch me, but he never forced his desires over my comfort. He doesn’t call me sexy, or hot, he calls me beautiful. What’s more, when he calls me that, I feel beautiful!

Reasons for Why I Love Her
She is feminine, but not feeble. I know that our interests don’t always match, but she makes every attempt to give my interests a chance. When I walk into a room, I see a sparkle in her eyes. She is always a lady when around my friends, but only I know the child inside her. When she looks into my eyes, I can feel her probing into my soul, knowing my deepest fears and thoughts. She knows I am "all man", but she still accepts it when I get childish, and cares for me when I am sick. She is beautiful!

  • You are always there when I need you. Not that I only call you when I need you, or that I use you. But, you have an ability to see beyond my self-protective "I don’t need help" stance. You see that I need help, and you are there. No questions, no expectations, no demands. Sometimes, you force me to take your help. It angers me, but I know you mean well.  

  • You introduced me to all your friends. Not because I was particularly awesome, but because you believed I was. You bragged about me to your friends and kept stealing glances all the way. You prepped me before I met them, and held my hand when you thought I would get nervous. After meeting all your friends, you told me how great I was. I saw you call your friend later (when you thought I was asleep), and say that "I don’t believe I finally found love!". I was touched!

  • Because we love each other. Yes that is a strange word — love. What does it mean? Does it mean we feel emotions for each other? Well, yes! But it’s not just that. Does it mean we want to share with each other, to talk, to make love, tell secrets and share confidences, give meaningful things, share a bath, call, give time to? Yes, yes, but there’s more.

Protection of Children from Swine H1N1 Flu during Christmas

November 3, 2009 – 10:53 am

 
Christmas is close on the doors, and its time for celebrations. There will be parties to host and attend; gifts to exchange; holidays to enjoy. For kids, Christmas is a special time of the year when they visit friends or enjoy an outing. As they mingle with hundreds of other children at playground, picnic spots, parties, they might get infected from children suffering from Swine Flu.Billions of people around the world are taking precautions to protect themselves against the Swine Flu. The H1N1 flu is life-threatening and  can be fatal if not treated on time. The children, young adults and pregnant women are most susceptible to the disease.

Especially, the children are at high-risk of being infected due to their weak immune systems and have greater chance of contacting Swine flu. Children younger than age 5 are most likely to suffer from complications of influenza. This is mainly because they regularly come in contact with hundreds of other kids.There are several things that can be done to prevent children from getting the Swine flu. The key for protecting is preventing:

Ways of Preventing Swine Flu:

  •  Educate Children on the Swine Flu
  • Children need to be reminded not to share certain things, such as drinks, food, candy, or anything else that can come in contact with other children’s mouths.
  • While toddlers won’t be able to grasp the concept of the Swine flu, older children can. Parents should teach children to keep a safe distance from sick children having colds, runny noises, coughs, and other Swine Flu symptoms.
  • One of the main reasons children are threatened by the Swine Flu is due to their low immune system. Children can strengthen their immune system and help prevent getting the H1N1 flu by eating healthy, taking a daily vitamin, consuming foods high in vitamins and drinking plenty of water.
  • One of the best methods of protecting children from catching the Swine flu is to sanitize. Keep sanitizers such as liquid sanitizer, anti-bacterial wipes, anti-bacterial soaps, and other sanitizing agents readily available for children.
  •  Cover nose and mouth of your children with a tissue when they cough or sneeze. Ask them to throw the tissue in the trash after using it.
  • Children can’t catch H1N1 flu from pork that’s been properly prepared and cooked.
  • Elmo Joins the H1N1 Flu Fight in seminars, videos, and other materials to educate children on how to protect themselves.
  •  Encourage children to wash their hands frequently
  • Stay informed. Avoid visiting places where the flu is known to exist with your children. If possible, avoid large crowds

American Academy of Pediatrics and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommend that all children over 6 months be vaccinated against swine flu.The basic thing to combat swine flue is not to get panic and stop spreading rumor. Keep your child at home to reduce the spread of flue, make sure they rest and get plenty of fluids. A humidifier and salt water nose drops can help with the congestion; a spoonful of honey can help calm a cough (if your child is older than a year).

Though children are the highest-risk group for spreading the virus among themselves, prevention strategies, infection monitoring and many other factors can help parents save their children from the deadly H1N1 flu. Here comes our wishes for all the parents for a flu-free, colorful and wonderful christmas.